How Can Blaming Others Be Destructive?

Each time we blame others for our actions, we diminish our power and enhance our sense of victimhood. And when we perceive ourselves as a victim we unwittingly foster feelings of powerlessness, helplessness, and pessimism—all of which may increase our proneness for anger arousal.

What is the psychological term for blaming others?

Psychological projection is a defense mechanism in which the ego defends itself against unconscious impulses or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their existence in themselves and attributing them to others. Projection has been described as an early phase of introjection.

What is blaming someone else for your bad behavior?

Blaming others involves making someone else responsible for the choices and decisions that are actually our own responsibility. ... In blame systems, someone is always doing something to us and we ignore all responsibility for asserting our needs, saying no, or going elsewhere for what we want.