"I'm Married to a Man Who Never Compliments or Supports Me, Should I Walk Away?" Expert Advises

• An unhappy wife is considering walking out of her marriage over her husband's disinterest
• The woman believes the man does not love her because he never compliments or supports her emotionally
• Counsellor Jeniffer Kiarie underpins that it is hard for a man to be emotionally present for his woman when he cannot take care of the family financially

Anonymous wrote:

"I'm married to a man who never compliments me and doesn't support me emotionally. He is jobless ni hustle anafanya, house bills ni mimi nalipa most. Of late nafeel kukua depressed sana, and when I tell him he walks away silently. Nafeel kifika mwisho. (He makes his money from small hustles, so I pay most of the house bills. Of late I am feeling depressed, and when I tell him he walks away silently. I feel like I'm at my tail end.) Please advise me."

Jeniffer Kiarie is a certified counsellor, relationships coach, and life coach passionate about mental health. She has been creating online and offline mental health awareness content since 2017. She founded the Facebook page Heal, Love and Live with Jeniffer Kiarie.

TUKO.co.ke sought the help of Kiarie to help the woman get a better way of dealing with her situation.

Problem started with inability to provide

Counsellor Jeniffer Kiarie explained that whatever is happening in the woman's life is common in households where the man can no longer provide.

According to her, the man's ego is hurt because the woman has taken up the role of the lead provider.

"It may not even be malicious, which could explain why he walks away silently whenever she tells him of her discomfort with the current arrangement and the emotional neglect she is experiencing," she started.

Kiarie said that it is hard for a man to be emotionally present for his woman when he cannot take care of her and the family financially.

Wife feels she has male energy

On the other hand, this woman subconsciously detects the male energy she has adopted by taking over the lead provider role.

That is why she craves compliments and emotional support from her man so she can feel the opposite: what it feels like to be a woman.

"Instead of putting more pressure on the man, now that he is already experiencing it, she should support him in coming up with an income-generating activity," Kiarie advised.

She reiterated that such support doesn't have to be financial, as emotional support would be helpful.