Is He Using Me as a Placeholder?

Your partner avoids making plans for the future

If the person you're dating avoids or even refuses to make plans for the future, you might be a placeholder. If you've been together for more than six months and they still can't discuss anything that isn't directly in front of them, this is a major warning signal.

What is a placeholder person?

Definition of placeholder

1 : a person or thing that occupies the position or place of another person or thing The bill would empower the governor to appoint a placeholder to a vacant U.S. Senate seat, to serve through the next general election cycle.—

How do you know if you're just being used?

“The basic yardstick for telling whether you are being used or not is to take a good look at how you are being treated,” Aimee says. “...if you find that they are disrespectful, don't treat you well, and you don't feel good with the person then chances are you might be being used.”