Why Is My Ex So Vindictive?

In some cases where spouses have cheated and initiated the breakup, the vindictive behavior is a response to their guilt over ruining or ending the marriage. In some cases, friends or family members may even intervene with your ex and encourage him or her to move on with their own life.

How do you deal with a vengeful ex?

  1. Develop an effective communication strategy. Hostile exes love to use electronic communication to criticize, attack, and threaten. ...
  2. Acknowledge your ex's experience. ...
  3. Keep firm boundaries. ...
  4. Keep kids out of the middle. ...
  5. Develop coping skills.

What is a vindictive ex?

The vindictive ex is a planner.

He or she spends time scheming and concocting a strategy to destroy their ex because that is the only way they know how to deal with their hurt, hate and anger.

Elena Rostova

Elena Rostova

Lead Health, Wellness & Medical Journalist

Elena Rostova holds a Master's degree in Public Health Journalism. She covers groundbreaking medical research, holistic wellness trends, mental health awareness, and nutritional science.